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Nowadays, we are inundated with mixed messages on how we should feel about being single, how we should date, and how we should be in a relationship. But what if we transformed the dialogue? And instead created a positive platform for honesty, sharing and reflection. Amidst a sea of unrealistic expectations of ourselves and of others, comes It’s Not Personal, a new anthology and community that challenges the rituals of today’s modern romance: what began as my own poetic response to a break up, has now transformed into a collective, international project that is evolving the way millennials approach dating and relationships.

It all started back in January 2016, when I wrote a poem about a short lived romance, and in-person break up. Writing through that experience allowed me to come to a place of acceptance and gratitude, within just a few hours of the break up. It was so cathartic that I ended up writing 10 pages of poems about all the guys I had previously dated. It was crazy fun! I sent them over to my friend Vanessa Gattinella, who also writes poetry, and the rest is history. From there, we decided to launch a platform that would give other women the opportunity to create things inspired by their love lives. 

Two years later, It's Not Personal has become an inclusive, femme-centric dating collective and growing anthology with contributors and fans from places as far as New York, Chicago, Toronto, Los Angeles, London, Milan, and Warsaw. The goal of the project is to challenge the ritual of today's modern romance and create safe, judgment free spaces for women/womxn to share their dating experiences using the healing tools of art and writing. We host a range of workshops and events, and also have a monthly column with BUST Magazine where we share writing and art by our international contributors. We also try to raise money for RAINN, the largest anti-sexual violence non-profit in the US, whenever we can. In everything that we do, we try to challenge all the noise in the media that attempts to dictate how one should feel about being single or in a relationship, and everything in between. Instead, we champion self-love, as well as the pursuit of fulfilling, respectful relationships. 

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Send art & writing submissions to itsnotpersonalnyc@gmail.com.